Daily Inspiration for Women

[Queen Mother]

I wanted to offer some diversity in our daily devotions. So, in addition to the devotions by Dr. Stanley that are in another thread, I wanted to start a thread "Just for Women." This will give you a daily choice as you look for inspiration each morning to start your day. Feel free to add comments or your own inspirations - Just For Women.

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[Queen Mother]

January 18, 2008

The Gift of Listening
By Renee Swope

“I am praying to you because I know you will answer, O God. Bend down and listen as I pray.” Psalm 17:6 (NLT)

I was recently reading a book in bed when I heard my husband calling our dog to come get her treat. He was actually luring Chelsea, our thirteen-year-old daschund, to her doggie bed.

Daisy, our beagle, was already outside doing her business, anticipating the reward of a doggy biscuit if she obediently came back inside and went to her bed. However, Chelsea was sound asleep in her chair; and nothing was going to get her to budge. Not even the promise of a bedtime treat.

I wondered if Chelsea had perfected her “selective hearing” skills, knowing it was time for bed, or if she's going deaf. I had a feeling it was the latter.

Once the dogs were tucked in bed, we laughed about how Chelsea used to hear every little thing. If the wind blew a leaf outside our front door, she barked.

Andrew my 10-year old came to my bedside to kiss me goodnight. With a concerned look in his eyes he said, “Mom, I hope when you get old you don’t go deaf like Chelsea.”

I laughingly told him that when I’m as old as Chelsea, it might be good if I can’t hear everything. She gets a lot more sleep than she used to, and I love to sleep. She also doesn’t hear when we laugh at her, and it might be good if I don’t hear jokes them laughing at me either.

My light-hearted response didn’t wipe the concern off his brow, so I asked why he was afraid I won’t be able to hear him.

"Well, sometimes you don’t hear me now. Like when you're on the computer and I ask you a question, sometimes you don’t hear me.” He answered without hesitation.

Ouch! I was not expecting that answer. I almost plunged into a "bad mommy" moment. My child thinks I can't hear him. I thought. I felt really bad because although I may be deeply distracted, I know that I hear him but I don’t always listen.

Instead of defining that moment with guilt, I pulled Andrew close to me and told him I was sorry for not listening sometimes.

I didn’t want him to fear that old age might make it worse. So, I explained how me being on the computer is similar to when he’s watching a good movie or playing video games. I reminded him how he gets so involved that’s it almost like he’s in another world and sometimes doesn't hear other noises, like me calling him for dinner. He nodded with a smile.

Then I made a promise I want to keep. “Andrew,” I said, "I am going to try really hard to stop what I am doing when you come to me, look away from my computer and really listen to what you’re saying. You're more important than anything I do on the computer. What you have to say matters to me!”

Today’s verse reflects our longing for God to hear us. It reminds me that in the same way I go to God because I want Him to listen and answer me; my child and others come to me because they want me to listen to them.

That night God showed me a valuable gift I can give to my children, my husband, friends, co-workers and even strangers. I can give the gift of listening by simply stopping what I’m doing, and giving my full attention to them when I hear them speak to me.

[Queen Mother]

January 20, 2008

“And the Greatest of These is Love”
by Melody Hadley

To fulfill God’s purpose in our lives and to serve Christ, we need the spiritual gifts of faith, hope and love.

I Corinthians 13:1-7, 13 (NIV) states: “If I speak in the tongues of men and angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging symbol. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I am nothing. Love is patient; love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres…And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

The Book of Ruth tells about two women whose love exceeds the norm. We are surprised by a loving relationship between an Israelite, Naomi, and her daughter-in-law, a Moabitess, Ruth, because there was always great friction between their individual homelands. Naomi’s dedication to God reaches the heart of this pagan woman, Ruth. When the widowed Naomi decides she must return to Israel, the also widowed Ruth chooses to accompany her.

Devoting herself to an aging woman, and the one true God, whom she has come to love, Ruth demonstrates unselfish love. While working in the fields in Israel, Ruth is seen as kind, loving, and gentle. She seeks God’s purpose for her life, eventually marrying landowner Boaz and ultimately becomes an ancestor of our Lord.

We need to ask ourselves: What is love? Why and how do you show love to others? How do you discover your personal love mission(s)?

Love is being patient, kind, protective, courteous, trusting, giving, hopeful, humble, truthful, and constant. It is unselfishly caring and sharing God’s limitless love for us all. It is not self-centered, rude, angry, petty, or proud.

God has told us we are to love one another, because He first loved us. He loved us so much that He gave His Son to die for our sins. When we meet any person in need, no matter what the need, we should ask ourselves, if Jesus were here, what would He do?

Ask God for the gift of love. He will show you how to use this gift. One way is in the ministry of ‘helping’. Your assignment may seem huge, such as serving as a pastor, heading a mission trip to serve Hurricane Katrina victims, or heading a vital church committee. You may be asked by God to do something more simple, but no less important, such as: write a card of encouragement to someone recently unemployed, visit the ill and shut-ins, e-mail a serviceman, wash dishes at a mission fund-raiser, donate money for the homeless, witness for God to an unsaved neighbor. We are each responsible for the specific tasks He appoints us to perform.

Rick Warren tells us in his book, The Purpose Driven Life, “There are people on this planet that only you will be able to reach, because of where you live, and what God has made you to be. If just one person will be in heaven because of you, your life will have made a difference for eternity.”

[Queen Mother]

January 21, 2008

Isabella and Jesus
By Van Walton

“The people brought children to Jesus, hoping he might touch them. The disciples shooed them off. But Jesus was irate and let them know it: ‘Don't push these children away. Don't ever get between them and me. These children are at the very center of life in the kingdom. Mark this: Unless you accept God's kingdom in the simplicity of a child, you'll never get in.’ Then, gathering the children up in his arms, he laid his hands of blessing on them.” Mark 10:13-16 (MSG).

My friend Kathy is a grandmother of three. You would never know it if you saw her. A former dancer, she is tall, athletic, and beautifully young. I am so impressed with my friend who returned to school in her fifties, earned a nursing degree and is now working full-time. During her spare time she enjoys her grandchildren.

Every once in a while her granddaughter, Isabella, visits her Nana for a sleepover. Kathy uses these times to tell Isabella about Jesus. However, the first time Kathy tried to introduce her granddaughter to Jesus, Isabella flatly said, “But I can't see Him.”

The next time Isabella spent the night, Kathy decided to get creative. She got out her stethoscope and showed Isabella where her heart is inside her chest. Then she had Isabella ball up her fist and she explained that it was the same size as her heart. Kathy then asked, “Can you see your heart?”

Isabella said “no,” so her Nana held the stethoscope to her chest and let her hear her heartbeat. "Is your heart in there?”

“Yes.” Isabella responded.

“How do you know?” her grandmother asked.

“I can hear it!” She said.

“Well, one day you will begin to hear Jesus even though you can't see Him.”

Isabella doesn’t know how blessed she is to have a grandmother who is not put off by a child’s uninterested answers. Kathy’s perseverance reminded me that whether I am talking with my own children, my little neighbors, or my nieces and nephews, I can have an impact on their spiritual lives by finding creative ways to teach them about Jesus.

[Queen Mother]

January 22, 2008

Becoming a Patient Woman
By Rachel Olsen

“We also pray that you will be strengthened with his glorious power so that you will have all the patience and endurance you need.” Colossians 1:11 (NLT)

In a heart that values instant gratification like mine does, patience seems hard to come by.

In the last several weeks I’ve raced through a yellow light because I didn’t want to wait at a red light. I’ve looked up my symptoms on the internet because I didn’t want to sit in a doctor’s waiting room. I’ve paid extra for an item off the internet because I didn’t want to stand in line at the store. I’ve also eaten dessert first, because I didn’t want to wait until it was “time” for dessert. (I think anytime is a good time for dessert!) Though I can’t recall a specific instance, odds are high that I lost my patience at some point and fussed at my kids.

We want stuff and we want it now. We want results and we want them now. Yet the Bible repeatedly says that patience should be a way of life for followers of Christ.

God is love and patience is part of His character. For you and I to love like God loves, patience will be required (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Loving as God loves is the ultimate goal as we walk through this life seeking to please God and become like Him.

Patience could be defined as the ability to endure graciously. We all have to deal at times with people or circumstances that try our composure – an ungrateful child, an inattentive waitress, a slow moving line at the cash register, a rude boss, a spouse taking our hard work around the house for granted. How graciously do we behave in these circumstances?

The Bible says God will be faithful to complete the good works He began in us (Philippians 1:6). That implies there’s going to be some “in the meantime” when we’re all less than perfect and less than easy to love. This is where patience comes in. The apostle Paul instructs us to “walk in a manner worthy of the calling to which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace” (Eph.4:1-3).

We also have to exercise patience towards God as we wait for His full plan to unfold. At times we must wait for answers to prayers, for deliverance, for provision, or for Him to dispense justice or reveal His will. We really have no choice but to wait in these circumstances, but a woman developing patience will endure the wait graciously. It helps to remember how very patient God has to be with us on a daily basis (1 Timothy 1:16, 2 Peter 3:8-9).

Exercising patience isn’t just an exercise of the human will. The kind of patience Paul is talking about is a fruit of the Spirit developed in a woman’s soul in tandem with God. It’s a virtue that grows from her confidence in the sovereignty of God and His ability to bring all things to completion, in His timing, in a way that benefits His children and glorifies Him.

This patience thing may take some time to develop, but I’ve decided to graciously endure the process. I started today by stopping, like I should, and waiting at a yellow light I’m certain I could’ve made it through safely. As I sat at the intersection, I thought about God and about developing patience. The light turned green a mere minute later, and I went on my way with a smile on my face, happy to be a woman who is embracing patience … even if starting in a very small way.

[HarleyBarbie]

QM, thank you so much for these devotionals. I must admit that today's was something that I needed. I needed to be reminded of God's timing and patience. I am usually really good at exercising patience with my children, work, etc. However, there is one situation in my life that I am not so great at applying it to. Though I can say to my children that this thing will occur when the Lord is ready, I cannot remind myself enough of the same. Often times, it even becomes painful to "wait it out." I know that the end result will be a huge Blessing and it will all have been worth it. It is a true test of faith. Again, I thank you.

[Queen Mother]

HB, I need this scripture on patience EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!! I'm pretty laid back most of the time - but my son knows every button to push - no matter how patient I try to be. I guess all children have that 'gene' built into them -- button pushing!!!

God teach me to have more patience today!

[Queen Mother]

January 23, 2008

True Beauty
by Sharon Jaynes

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised” (Proverbs 31: 30 TNIV).

Our culture is enthralled with the idea of beauty and eternal youth. But what is true beauty? In Experience the Ultimate Makeover, I have included a story by Carla Muir about a cosmetics company that made an important discovery.

A successful beauty product company asked the people in a large city to send pictures along with a brief letter about the most beautiful women they knew. Within a few weeks, thousands of letters were delivered to the company.

One letter in particular caught the attention of the employees, and soon it was handed to the company president. The letter was written by a young boy who was obviously from a broken home and living in a run-down neighborhood. With spelling corrections, an excerpt from his letter read, “This beautiful woman lives down the street from me. I visit her every day. She makes me feel like the most important kid in the world. We play checkers and she listens to my problems. She understands me and when I leave she always yells out the door that she’s proud of me.”

The boy ended his letter saying, “This picture shows you that she is the most beautiful woman. I hope I have a wife as pretty as her.”

Intrigued by the letter, the president asked to see this woman’s picture. His secretary handed him a photograph of a smiling, toothless woman, well advanced in years, sitting in a wheelchair. Sparse gray hair was pulled back in a bun. Wrinkles that formed deep furrows on her face were somehow diminished by the twinkle in her eyes.

“We can’t use this woman,” explained the president, smiling. “She would show the world that our products aren’t necessary to be beautiful.”

The little boy had discovered a valuable truth. Beauty - true beauty - begins on the inside and works its way out. Now, I’m not one to believe in letting my appearance go. You won’t likely catch me without my makeup on. It’s not a pretty picture.

But here’s what we must always remember: no matter how beautiful a person may be on the outside, an ugly soul will always show through. And you know, I’ve never seen a more beautiful group of women than a gathering of girlfriends in God who love Jesus Christ.

[Queen Mother]

January 24, 2008

Training Our Children to Follow God
By Melanie Chitwood

“’Listen, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Tie them to your hands and wear them on your forehead as reminders. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.’” Deuteronomy 6:4-8 (NLT)

God’s Word teaches us that the spiritual training of our children is our responsibility as parents, but to be honest I’ve struggled over the years with how to do this. As I’ve prayed and tried different approaches, the following ideas have guided me.

First, as today’s key verse says, before we’re commanded to teach our children anything, we’re told how to live out our own personal relationship with God by loving Him with all our heart. We’ve all heard the phrase that “more is caught than taught.” We need to ask ourselves if we’re living out in our lives the godly principles we want to teach our children. Kids tend to be very sensitive to hypocrisy, so if our children don’t see us modeling God’s truths, they’re likely to tune us out.

Secondly, I’ve discovered that love is the most effective teacher. I experienced this firsthand in my life. I became a Christian as a teenager after my Young Life leaders took an interest in me, listened to me, and became involved in my life. They did this for years before I ever committed my life to Christ. Their love for me was genuine and I knew it. No one wants to feel like a project on someone’s Christian “to-do” list. That includes our children. Training our children in God’s principles happens best when our children know that we love them, we care about all aspects of their lives, and we value them as top priorities.

Third, I have looked for practical activities that will lead to great conversations with my kids. My favorite is when we sit down at the dinner table and each family member shares his “highs and lows.” A “high” is simply something good that happened that day or week, maybe something that made that person happy. A “low” is something that made him sad or unhappy during the day.

Sometimes our sharing time is very light-hearted and silly, but other times it’s more serious, leading to more questions and conversation. Most importantly, this sharing time provides an avenue for me to give my children some ideas for applying God’s truth in a very real and practical way to what’s going on in their lives. It’s become one of our favorite family traditions.

As we pray for His help, I have found that God is always willing to give us great ideas for pointing our kids to Him.

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[Queen Mother]

January 25, 2008

Audience of One
by Haven Parrott

“Let us fix our eyes on Jesus . . .” Hebrews 12:2

My son’s teammate, Ryan, is a good middle-school wrestler who wins more matches than he loses, usually with a quick pin in the first period. At a recent match, however, it was obvious there’d be no quick pin, perhaps no pin at all. Ryan’s opponent was as strong as Ryan, maybe even stronger. And he was a good wrestler.

The two went at it full bore, matching each other point for point. Fans on both sides cheered, stomped, and yelled advice to the tangled pair. But Ryan had ears and eyes for only one member of the audience: his dad, Brian.

As Ryan wrestled his heart out, alternately throwing a hold on his opponent and then contorting his body to elude his opponent’s hold, he frequently looked to his father for counsel and guidance. “What now, Dad?” his eyes asked. And Brian answered. “Lean back, son!” “Harder!” “Now, cross right!” “That’s it! Good job, Ryan!”

The exchange between father and son went on throughout the match. A lot of love and trust filled the space between the mat where Ryan wrestled and the bleacher where Brian sat with every fiber of his attention focused upon his boy. With just 20 seconds to go in the 3rd period, Ryan held his opponent down. The pin was imminent. Ryan’s eyes never left his father’s face as he weighted his opponent and waited for the ref’s count.

Brian smiled, nodded, and yelled, “Way to go, Son!” The crowd roared with delight when the ref’s slap signaled Ryan’s victory, but I have a feeling that all Ryan heard was the pleasure in his dad’s voice, because Ryan wrestled for an audience of one.

[Queen Mother]

January 26

Be Honest with Yourself
by Selwyn Hughes

Psalms 51:1-9
"Surely you desire truth in the inner parts '" (v.6)

Even the most casual reader of Psalm 73 cannot help but be struck by the openness and honesty of the psalmist. He says: "My feet had almost slipped ' for I envied the arrogant" (vv. 2-3). This again is one of the great values of the book of Psalms - it brings home to us the importance of acknowledging what is going on in our hearts when we are caught up in the midst of conflict. I cannot stress enough how spiritually damaging it is to ignore or deny our true feelings.

There is a form of teaching going around in some Christian circles today which holds that one should never admit or acknowledge a negative thought or feeling - not even for a single second. Life must be lived positively, it is said, and that means refusing to consider or even glance at anything negative.

What nonsense! The people who advocate this approach to life can never have read the book of Psalms. I am all for a positive approach to life, but positivism first involves facing things realistically no matter how negative they may be. How can you know what you need to be positive about until you have clearly seen what is troubling you?

Once an issue is faced, and faced realistically, then the matter can and must be dealt with in a positive way. But to try and be positive without bringing into clear focus what is wrong is like building a house on sand. No matter how much cement is poured into the foundations, and no matter how well the walls are reinforced, when a storm comes it will sink without trace.

[Queen Mother]

January 27, 2008

Safety
Margaret D. Mitchell

“I will lie down and sleep in peace, for You alone, O Lord, make me dwell in safety.” ~ Psalm 4:8

God made His covenant of peace through Christ so that we may live free of hostility and enjoy life in complete security. God’s original intent was that we live fearlessly and in safety. Of course, this requires obedience, following the voice of the Holy Spirit carefully and seeking God in worship above all things.

Proverbs 28:26 says, “He who trusts in himself is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom is kept safe.” May we exercise God’s wisdom.

Proverbs 29:25 says, “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” May we fearlessly trust God, not man.

Proverbs 18:10 says, “The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” May we run to the Lord.

Psalm 34:10 says, “... those who seek the Lord lack no good thing. May we seek the Lord.

Deuteronomy 33:12 says, “Let the beloved of the Lord rest secure in Him, for He shields Him all day long, and the one the Lord loves rests between His shoulders.” May we rest in the Lord.

The enemy would like nothing more than to destroy us through eternal separation from God. Although we can rest secure in our salvation, consider how he could destroy our lives through tempting us away from worshiping and seeking God’s face regularly as the Holy Spirit leads. The enemy can use distraction, complacency, overwork, untimeliness, fear and false responsibilities to lure us away from our first priority, thus causing us to not know God’s revealed direction for specific assignments.

Seeking God’s face and direction is an obedient choice we make. If we willingly choose to not seek His will, we may lean unto our own understanding, talents and gifts to make important decisions. Thus, God will not bless the work of our hands. Even though we may accomplish a bit, at some point, we will come to a screeching halt.

Throughout the Bible, God revealed unusual directives to leaders. Consider the Book of Joshua where the Lord gave Joshua a unique strategy for each battle in the Promised Land. What if Joshua hadn’t listened and instead leaned on previous battle strategies (old manna) to get him through. What if he had looked left and right upon distraction and not kept his eyes upon the Lord? What if he had let fear control his actions?

Joshua would have failed because he would have been in disobedience against God and would have been fighting in his own strength. Much hinged upon Joshua’s obedience, including his own life. But it wasn’t just about him. It was about a nation. It was about God’s will being done on earth as it is in heaven. It was about a Kingdom.

Clearly, obedience is key to our security and livelihood. God’s mercy is new every morning. May we partake of His fresh manna and drink of His new wine daily so that we may enjoy life in complete safety.

[Queen Mother]

January 28, 2008

Wonderful Counselor
By Melanie Chitwood

“And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” Isaiah 9:6b (NIV)

The past year has brought many unexpected challenges in my life, mostly in the form of stress over various relationships. These concerns wake me up early in the morning to pray, and they’ve led me to be increasingly dependent on God.

One morning as I was reading my Bible, God reminded me that I am not alone and I do not face these challenges on my own. I’ve known this for many years, but this morning God moved that truth from my head to my heart with the words from today’s key verse.

Jesus is my Wonderful Counselor. Have you ever paused to dwell on those words? Jesus is my Wonderful Counselor. When I don’t know how to be a mother to my newly turned teenage son, Jesus is my Wonderful Counselor. When I don’t know how to comfort my relatives going through a hard time in their marriage, Jesus is my Wonderful Counselor. When I want to offer wise counsel to my friend whose life seems to be coming apart, Jesus is my Wonderful Counselor.

As I looked at the other names of Jesus, I was reminded of what kind of Counselor He is. He is our Mighty God – God’s strength surpasses any attacks the world brings. He is our Everlasting Father – His love and strength are eternal. And He is our Prince of Peace – He calms our fears and worries when we hand them over to Him.

[Queen Mother]

January 29, 2008

Who’s in Your Space?
By Susanne Scheppmann

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” James 1:5 (NIV)

Black lingerie barely covered the girl’s petite body. Written in red marker across her stomach were provocative words aimed for seduction. She was thirteen and an active member of her church youth group.

Aghast, I sat silent watching my neighbor’s daughter dance across the computer screen. My neighbor asked, “How did this happen? What is this MySpace?”

Hot angry tears ran down my cheeks. Once again, MySpace.com struck close to home. Just a month before, I had discovered a teenage relative of mine dressed in macabre attire spewing profanities before a camera. Her gothic attire and horrific language went against everything I knew about the one I had affectionately thought of as a “bookworm.”

MySpace.com is one of several websites that promotes social networking. Anyone can setup a profile and say anything about himself or herself. It provides a false sense of anonymity and safety for teens. They can promote themselves as sexy, daring, or rebellious. Really, how many teenagers are going to admit that they’re a bookworm? It’s more fun to become someone they’re not. It can turn out to be a masquerade of self before an audience of millions.

Sexual predators search social networks such as MySpace.com looking for innocent victims who are usually unaware of the danger. When immature and unaware kids foray onto the Internet, doors open for insidious people to come into the space of your home.

So, what can we moms do? We can wise up and go on the offense. Let’s heed the advice found in Proverbs 2:11, “Wise planning will watch over you. Understanding will keep you safe” (NLT).

Know Who’s in Your Space
We need to know who is coming into our homes uninvited. (This can include our kids who may be engaging in online behavior beyond our recognition.) In today’s world of computers, Internet, and cell phones, it is not always easy to know what our children are doing – alone or with friends. Usually, teens are savvy when it comes to the world of electronics, so we need to become proactive in our awareness. As mothers who want to protect our children, we should talk with them about online dangers and take steps to guard against unacceptable Internet activity.

Take Advantage of this Opportunity
Let’s remember the computer is not the enemy. (To me, it is the best thing since the microwave!) The evil that lurks on the Internet comes from the evil one, not the hardware. So, “Be on guard. Stand true to what you believe. Be courageous. Be strong.” (1 Corinthians 16:13, NLT). See this as an opportunity to connect with your children on their own turf. Allow them to discover that you can be fun and interactive, even in their space.

Most importantly, let’s ask for wisdom from our heavenly Father to aid in understanding what’s in our space—our homes.

[Queen Mother]

January 30, 2008

Be the Man
By Van Walton

”Jesus grew in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and all the people.” Luke 2:52 (NLT)

I recently visited my oldest son, Aaron, and his wife. They impressed me with their hard work and smart decisions. I admire them because they have found their way into responsible adulthood.

I realize looking back that my son didn’t automatically grow into maturity. Foundation stones and building blocks had to be carefully laid. That is where parenting came in. In addition to providing food, clothing, and shelter my husband and I were committed to preparing our sons to be men of strong godly character.

I always tried to remind myself that I was not raising boys - I was growing young men. When parenting got tough and I was tempted to back off and get lax, I remembered: “These are not little boys. They are future leaders, husbands and daddies. They need direction right now, not a push-over mom.”

Don’t get me wrong. I had lots of fun with my two sons, visiting museums, zoos, parks, and ski slopes. We attended church and participated in many children’s programs. Hiking the nearby woods, digging snow forts, and playing in the colorful fall leaves described our days.

I have other memories also of challenging situations when I had to say, “No.” Sometimes the parent-child struggles seemed unbearable. I often wanted to give up, allowing Aaron or Benjamin to have their way. Their smart manipulations sometimes confused me. Then I would have to remind myself that I was the mom.

One of the most difficult parenting tasks is to remove oneself and allow our children to fail as a result of the choices they make. The first time Aaron missed the bus, we had been struggling with time issues. Watching him return home, I prepared myself by smiling and opening the door. Without overreacting I listened to his story and responded, “You know the house rules. If you are not in school, you go to bed and stay in bed.” He argued that he was not sick, that I should take him to school. I knew if I caved in today, this battle and similar battles would plague us. I stood my ground, telling him that daddy is never late to work. Grown men don’t “miss the bus.”

If mothers do not do their “home work” right the first time around, the re-do’s become increasingly difficult and complicated – sort of like if you don’t memorize your multiplication tables, division will take you down!

I had to get my home work right with my youngest son, Benjamin, also. Sometimes his choices put him in peril so I developed a short phrase to repeat whenever he tried to dodge uncomfortable consequences. “Be the man” I’d say, “I am sure you can figure your way out of this problem.” Angered, Benjamin would often accuse others, but I reminded him that he alone was at fault. Grown men do not blame others for their mistakes.

Recently Benjamin, who’s now in college, told us his winter break plans, including a ski trip with friends. After listening to the exciting details, including the fact that he funded his entire trip, I gladly replied, “You’re the man. I’m impressed!”

In my son’s voice I detected strength, confidence, and a growing sense of self worth when he thanked me. I flashed back to those times I had encouraged him to solve his problems and “be the man.” My words might have seemed harsh and uncaring, but in reality I spoke of trust and confidence, telling him he was capable.

If we parent with an eye to the future rather than working out of today’s emotional reactions, we’ll successfully accomplish our “home work” and help our sons “be the man” God wants them to be one day.

[Queen Mother]

January 31, 2008

A Life That Pleases God
By Micca Monda Campbell

“For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit.” Romans 8:5 (NKJ)

The Tennessee Women’s prison has an unusual baptistery in their chapel. It’s a coffin. For these women, being baptized in a coffin is a powerful visual of their death and burial with Christ. Thereafter, the coffin, which is a permanent fixture in the chapel, becomes a daily reminder that they are no longer slaves to sin and enemies of God. Their old way of living is dead, buried, and gone; and they are now free to live a life pleasing to God.

This is such an awesome truth in ours lives that Billy Graham says, “We should meditate on the truth that we are dead to sin and alive to righteousness, until returning to the old way of living is unthinkable.”

While it is true that we are dead to our old life, staying dead is another matter. Often, our dead flesh will raise its ugly head and try to influence our thoughts and actions. If we listen long enough to its demands, we suddenly find ourselves at the graveyard fervently digging up our old flesh, so that it can perform its sinful deeds.

Christians have a responsibility to put to death their old nature through daily surrender or else they cannot live a life pleasing to God. They will begin to think only of themselves again and ways to gratify their flesh. However, those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit will live a life of righteousness free from sin. Those who follow the Holy Spirit will not think about fulfilling the desires of the flesh. Their thoughts are occupied by God’s Word, His ways, and purposes.

The Bible tells us in Philippians 4:8, “Fix your thoughts on what is true and honorable and right. Think about things that are pure and lovely an admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” So, what dominates your thoughts?

If we only think of ourselves, what we want and our rights, then eventually we’ll find ourselves going down the wrong path, one that leads to a stinky life. On the other hand, thinking on things that are pure and worthy brings forth life that is pleasing to God and a witness to others.

If you are in Christ, then the flesh no longer dominates you, my sister. So stop visiting the graveyard. Instead be led by the Holy Spirit by dying daily to your old way of thinking and living. Then, the Spirit of God can create in you a pure life that releases a sweet, pleasing aroma.

[Queen Mother]

February 1, 2008

God’s Heart
Cindi Wood

“Teach me Your way, O Lord, and I will walk in Your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear Your name.” Psalms 86:11

The word, “heart”, when used in Scriptures, does not refer to the pump-like organ of blood circulation in our chests. Neither does it refer to mere emotions, but to our entire being. Our thoughts, dreams, desires, and our direction for life are all housed in the description of the Biblical heart.

In the psalms, David prays for an undivided heart so that he could focus single-mindedly and determinedly on God. Since reading Psalms 86 early this morning, that’s been my prayer – my heart’s cry. Lord, be my center, my core, my undivided focus!

Yesterday, in a deep and sweet conversation with my son, he shared the dreams God was giving him. “I know it’s all from Him, but I don’t know how to carry it out” he explained. What joy to encourage him with the reality of God’s heart! Many times, I’ve experienced the same thing…God placing a sense of excitement within me, but like my son, I just don’t know what to do with it. And . . . time and again, I have pulled away from everything, just to worship Him and know His heart. It’s then that He begins to reveal His plan for the dreams He placed in my own heart.

Today is the perfect day for you to get alone with God and explore His heart. That’s where you’ll get your answers and your direction for life.

[Queen Mother]

February 2-3, 2008

They Will See God
Lysa TerKeurst

“Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God." Matthew 5:8 (NIV)

There is something amazing that happens to a soul when quiet majesty is observed.

Recently I rode to the top of Straton Mountain. When I got off the gondola and took in the scene around me, my soul quickened at the obvious hand of God. It was amazing to see some of God's most glorious handiwork. Every tree, the vast blue sky, the swirled mix of sunshine and clouds, the rise of the mountain, and the slope down to the valley all placed by the hand of God.

As I took in the scene I imagined God asking, "Who will notice Me in all of this today? Who will stop for just a moment and see me? Who will let their soul linger ever so slightly and simply utter an acknowledgement of Me?"

Oh God, the rocks surely do cry out great evidence of You.

May I do the same.

And not just on days when I am on vacation.

Everyday God is there. Everyday we have an opportunity to notice and acknowledge, and see and rejoice. Even when the world is crazy around me, I can still make the choice to see God.

Matthew 5:8 says, "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God."

It doesn't say, "blessed is the perfect person."
It doesn't say, "blessed is the woman who has perfect Biblical knowledge."
It doesn't say, "blessed is the one who never misplaces library books."
It doesn't say, "blessed is the mom who never messes up with her kids."

Nope. It says blessed is that woman whose heart is pure. In other words, "blessed is that woman who lives in expectation of seeing God- who looks for and acknowledges Him- whose greatest desire is to see God--- for she certainly will."

So whether your scenery today consists of beautiful mountains or mountains of laundry – look for Him – make the choice to acknowledge Him. Choose to see Him, and then you will.

[hummingbird]

I will try hard everyday to make a point of reading these posts--Sometimes u get so busy with other things in your life that u forget to take a minute and indulge yourself in a little of time just for yourself--thanks

[Queen Mother]

February 4, 2008

The New June Cleaver
Lynn Campbell Tolbert

“’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.’”
Jeremiah 29:11(NIV)

I had always considered myself a modern day version of June Cleaver. Although I never wore an apron or had the perfect hairdo (I actually preferred my blue jeans and flip flops), it was the heart of June that I loved. She loved her family. She honored her husband. She mothered her children. She managed her household. Though her perfect life was a little unrealistic, she did inspire me.

I certainly don’t claim that I was the perfect wife, but never did I think that after twenty years of marriage, most of which I spent as a pastor’s wife, I would one day find myself divorced. Now I’m starting over while raising two teenagers. Well, there goes my June Cleaver dream!

What do you do, though, when the June Cleaver dream still lives deep within you, but your circumstances have dramatically changed? I remember sitting in church, opening the bulletin, and wondering where on earth I belonged in the activities. I thought the Lord’s plans for my life were to support my husband in ministry and for us to raise godly children. There was nothing screaming out in the bulletin: Divorced? We want you! I truly felt like that absence of acknowledgment of the growing divorced population meant we just don’t know what to do with you and don’t have a place for you. It was an incredibly lonely place to be.

I clung to today’s key verse from Jeremiah. I reminded myself of God’s promises: that the days ordained for me were written in His book before one of them came to be (Psalm 139:16) and that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28). As I remembered God’s truth, I wondered how could I ever doubt that even in the midst of the most horrific pain in my life, He still has plans for ME … plans to prosper ME and not to harm ME, plans to give ME a hope and a future. This is a promise from my perfect Husband- God! He has been diligently planning our future together.

Are you in this place I’ve described? Are you wounded and hurting? Do you ask yourself and God, How could this have happened? Are you wondering, What now?

Grab onto to God’s promise and don’t let go. You are chosen by God. He is calling you into an intimate relationship with Him…the Perfect Husband! We may never know why such painful ordeals take root in our lives. However, we can be sure that it is possible for us to rest peacefully knowing that He does have great plans for our lives.

As people inquire about my future plans, I get so excited! I tell them that I am living proof that God’s Word is true! The work that He has done within me is amazing. He has transformed me! I still do many of the same things I did before. I still make chocolate chip cookies for my kids and their friends when they come over. There is still a little June Cleaver in me. God, however, has given me a new heart, a new spirit, a new mind, a new purpose and a new life. I wouldn’t wish what I have gone through on anyone. But because of the change in me and new purpose in my life, I am incredibly grateful for what God has done in me and hopefully will do through me.

God has a divine purpose for everything He allows into our lives!

[Queen Mother]

February 5, 2008

SET APART
by Gail Rodgers

The sharply dressed young people lined the room. They looked fresh, eager and expectant, as they stood ready to step into their new roles. These were the teaching teams for the schools in the villages. They knew they had a unique opportunity to help shape the lives and the future of the children in this corner of of Central America.

For two and a quarter hours I watched them each step forward and declare out loud to one another and to those of us there that they were setting themselves apart this year to be completely dedicated to God in their roles.

Their leaders gathered around each one and prayed earnestly for them. With hands turned upward toward God they received the blessings prayed over them.

With repentant hearts they went to one another to ask for forgiveness in places where relationships were not right. God's presence was there!

Then they turned and with others present gathered around their leaders and prayed for God's blessing, strength and wisdom for them in the year ahead.

I was moved by the depth of sincerity and by the deep awareness of their need for God to be the one who led them into this new school year.

Openly they set themselves apart to be His vessels in this place. I was challenged in my own heart. "Set apart". What does that look like for you and I today?

I thought of Psalm 4:3 where it says, "The Lord has set aside him who is godly for Himself. The Lord will hear when I call unto Him."

God has set us, as believers, aside for Himself. He calls us to live godly lives in open repentance and forgiveness, in open declaration that we seek Him in all we undertake to accomplish.

As I go about my day this means I will keep my heart open to His Spirit. I will guard my heart attitudes, my thoughts and my schedule as I ask Him what is on His heart for me to do today.

"Set aside" for God Himself. "Set aside" to be active in the family business of giving His love away. "Set aside" from the noise of my day to listen to the quiet voice of His Spirit.

Today you and I are "set aside" for the greater purposes of His plans. "Set apart" from the rest of the world to hear and obey His voice in the places our feet go today

[Queen Mother]

February 7, 2008

What is Real?
Holly Good

“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.”
James 1:12 (NIV)

Has your trust ever been shattered by someone you love? Recently I was faced with a very unsettling situation. I was shocked when I learned of hidden sin that had spun its way into the life of someone I care about deeply.

For weeks, I pleaded with God on my knees for an explanation, for understanding, for clarity. My sense of reality had been threatened and betrayed. I desperately cried out, “What is real Lord; tell me what is real. Because what I thought was real may not be.”

I went to bed one night trying to make peace with the fact that maybe I was never supposed to understand this devastating circumstance. I had many questions, but few answers. I had many thoughts, but few explanations. When I awoke the next morning, during my quiet time, the Lord gently began to reveal some answers to my wounded heart.

I was reminded of my need for Him – my never-ending, all-consuming need for Him. Too often I find myself taking my eyes off Him and attempting to live difficult situations in my own strength. I was profoundly challenged by Colossians 3:1-2, “Since then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things” (NIV). Unfortunately, my focus had completely shifted to myself and my questions. And apart from God, my focus had become distorted.

I was reminded that I needed to continue to seek the Lord and patiently wait for what He had in store. Like Paul with his thorn, I too began to beg the Lord to take this hurt away. Make it disappear, Lord. “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness’” (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV). By admitting my frailty, God was able to affirm His strength in me.

And finally, He pointed me to what is real. He gently reminded me that He is real. My God is real. Though on this earth I will face many stressful situations, many disappointments, and many hurts, I know that my God is real and He will never leave me. I once again found loving comfort in the words from Moses to Joshua in Deuteronomy 31:8, “The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged” (NIV). I knew I had to completely depend on God and believe in His goodness.

My assignment in this difficult circumstance was clear. The Lord was asking me to continue to pray, believe, trust, seek, wait, and focus on Him and Him alone. I am so thankful that nothing will ever separate me from His unfailing love. And THAT my friend is real.

[Queen Mother]

February 8, 2008

Travel Theology
Gwen Smith

“I have set the LORD always before me. Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” (Psalm 16:8 NIV)

I recently heard a friend say, “I used to think that the Bible was the road map for life. Now I feel that it is more like a traveling companion for the journey.” That was profound to me. While it’s true that we don’t always know which direction to take next, I’m so thankful that we do have a heavenly hand to hold along the way.

I am a ‘regular’ at the Charlotte, NC airport. Not long ago, while at my gate preparing to board a flight, I overheard an agent at the ticket counter ask a common travel question, “What is your final destination?” The inquiry tickled my mind into a reflective wonderland.

What is my final destination? Beyond the obvious boarding-pass-answer, I began to think about the significance of that question concerning my life. I’d like to invite you to pack your bags and take a journey with me over the next few minutes as we consider a few questions that could help define your own ‘travel theology’. Hang on! I must caution you, this ride could get bumpy. No need for concern though, I anticipate we will soon be soaring in amazing, revolutionary skies of grace. Let’s consider the following five questions as we prepare for take off:

1. May I have your ticket please?
Before you board the Heaven-Bound Express you must have a ticket, but your money doesn’t have any value in this foreign land. Do you possess the free “ticket of grace?” If not, I’ve got good news for you! A ticket was purchased on your behalf by the Son of God Himself, Jesus Christ. He came to earth to make a way for each of us to have access to God through the forgiveness of our sins.

Jesus said in John 14:6 “I am the way, and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” Your ticket is free. You just need to accept it.

2. Do you have any baggage to check?
Are there any anxieties, worries, past sins, past hurts with you today should be placed in the able hands of Jesus? The Bible says in Philippians 4:6, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Psalm 55:22 says “Cast your cares on the LORD and He will sustain you. He will never let the righteous fall.”

3. Can I please see your ID?
Who are you? What defines you? Who does Christ say you are? What is the ‘Emotional Security Number’ on your ID? These are important factors of identification. Be sure that you have the proper ID with you today.

4. Is your seat belt fastened?
Once onboard, there are a few important details that must not be overlooked. A seat belt is one of them. We use seatbelts to hold us firmly in place, securing our safety. During travel, the flight can often become bumpy. The word ‘turbulent’ is defined this way: tur·bu·lent (tûrZbyM-lMnt) adj. 1. Violently agitated or disturbed; tumultuous: turbulent rapids. 2. Having a chaotic or restless character or tendency: a turbulent period in history. 3. Causing unrest or disturbance; unruly: turbulent, revolutionary undercurrents.

Turbulence is often unavoidable, both on a flight in the sleekest jet and in the lives we live. Do you remember that childhood book “Going On a Bear Hunt?” The chorus would chime in as each new obstacle blocked the path of the adventurers, “Can’t go over it, can’t go under it, can’t go around it, you have to go through it.” Like that exhausting childhood story, turbulence is often in our path of travel and there is simply no way around it. You have to go through it. So be sure to fasten your Seatbelt of Faith.

Psalm 16:8 “I have set the LORD always before me. Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.”

As we prepare to land…one final question…

5. Are you traveling alone or with a companion?

Jesus said He came so that we would have abundant life – a full, satisfying journey! We were never promised a problem-free trip. Are you traveling alone today? If so, let me encourage you to take His hand…the ride won’t necessarily be easier, but it will be sweeter and your destination will be sure!!!

[Queen Mother]

February 11, 2008

A Journey with God
Leah DiPascal

“Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you;
He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.” Psalm 55:22 (NKJ)

I was not looking forward to the trip. As terrible as it sounds, I would have done anything to send someone else in my place so that I didn’t have to face my mom. You see, many years ago my mother was diagnosed with an incurable disease that has affected her physically, mentally, and emotionally. It has been so painful to watch someone I love deeply waste away to nothingness and know there’s nothing I can do but pray and trust God.

The first three days of my stay were the toughest. Mom didn’t recognize me, which was extremely difficult. I kept asking her several times a day “Do you know my name?” or “Who am I?” but she would just look at me with a blank empty stare as if I wasn’t there.

I cried out to God. Please Lord, not yet! I still have so much I want to tell her. My heart was breaking. I asked Him, “How much longer are You going to let this go on? Just take her to heaven where she can be whole again. This load is much too heavy and we are all so tired and weary from the journey.”

On the fourth night after bathing my mom, brushing her teeth, and helping her get into her nightgown, I reluctantly wheeled her over to the bed. Bedtime is difficult for her due to restless sleep and bad dreams. Bedtime is always accompanied with tears. As I tucked the sheets ever so tightly around her and kissed her forehead, I was reminded of when I was a little girl and how she would do the exact same thing for me as part of my bedtime ritual. We said prayers and then ever so hesitantly I asked her once again “Mom, do you know my name?”

Slowly she looked up at me with her beautiful brown eyes and said “Of course, Leah. I know your name.” In that very moment, I was filled with indescribable joy and peace. Nothing else mattered. I didn’t care that we couldn’t go shopping anymore or that we weren’t able to have lunch with friends. It didn’t matter that she couldn’t read me those beautiful poems she had written so long ago or sit on the floor and play with my boys. She knew who I was, and that was good enough for me.

During my stay, I was challenged in countless ways, but God was so faithful and continued to assure me that everything was going to be all right. He even answered several prayers I had been requesting for months. I was also reminded of today’s verse. He wants me to cast my burdens on Him and allow Him to sustain me. He wants me to trust in Him and not to lean on my own understanding.

This is certainly not the plan I would have chosen for my mother yet through this experience I have come to realize that trials and challenges are inevitable. I must learn to expect them, submit to them and learn from them. All the while, realizing that behind each challenge I find a God who longs to pour out His love on me and to carry my burdens if I let Him.

Do you have a parent who is aging and needs your help, or a loved one who is suffering from an incurable disease? Or, are you carrying burdens that are much too heavy to bear? Perhaps you have been asking God tough questions and waiting for your prayers to be answered.

One thing I am learning is that when we ask our Heavenly Father for something, the journey He takes us on while we wait on Him is often times greater than the answered prayer itself. I hope you will let Him carry your burdens today and trust that He knows what is best for you and those you love.

Remember, you were not designed to walk this path alone. He is right by your side to strengthen and sustain you each step of the way.

[Queen Mother]

February 22, 2008

Inspired Message
Lysa TerKeurst

“I am the way and the truth and the life…”John 14:6 (NIV)

There once was a little girl...
with a battered heart.
She was told by the first love of her life...
that she was unwanted.
Her Daddy's silence made her cry. His words made her broken.
Then one day she was given an old typewriter...
and when she placed her fingers on the dusty keys, her heart settled.
Words came from her fingertips that her lips couldn't produce.
Her poems cryptically told of hidden abuse.
Tears often smeared her little girl masterpieces.
Years passed... her fingers stilled, her heart grew cold, her lips cursed God.
But there were other people busy at their keyboards... pouring out inspired messages.
Messages that would one day reach her - in deep places - places long ago hidden away. Messages that told her she didn't have to be a child of a broken parent. She could be a child of God. She was wanted.
She is me.

Jesus used their key strokes to produce words, messages, books, and Bible studies – their words unlocked me, released me, held me, exposed me, and helped put me together again.

And then my fingers found their way back... and dared to strike a key or two or ten thousand. Letters became words. Words became chapters. Chapters became books. And somehow others were unlocked, held, exposed and helped.

Every one of us has words inside that were never meant to just rumble about, hidden away. They are meant to be shared. Given. Released. Spoken. Written.

But somehow, Satan has deceived us by making us think we are not good enough, smart enough, educated enough, or eloquent enough to be able to share the reality of what Jesus has done in our lives. In Matthew chapter 5, Jesus calls us the salt of the earth and the light of the world. He goes on to instruct us to let our light shine.

But we don’t have to do it in our strength. For right at the point we dare to say, “There’s no way,” Jesus steps in and calls Himself--- "The Way."

And your story is the best thing you have to share “the Way” with the world.

[Queen Mother]

February 22, 2008

A Calm in the Storm
Nancy McGuirk

“He got up and rebuked the wind and the raging waters; the storm subsided, and all was calm.” (Luke 8:24 NIV)

In the summer when our children were younger, I often sat on the beach and watched my husband take them out on a small sailboat. He loves to sail and excelled at tipping the boat almost over on its side, making the children scream in mock fear and true delight. As scared as they were, they knew their father was in control. They’d done this so many times before that they knew they were safe with him. So they held on to the boat and each other, screamed as loud as they could, and laughed all the way back to shore. They were calm in the midst of the waves.

Sometimes our lives are like a storm at sea. When we cry out to Jesus, He may calm the storm, but more often, it seems He calms us in the midst of the storm.

Mothers live in storms every day. With four teenagers, I often find myself rowing and rowing and feeling like I am going nowhere. No sooner have I rowed upstream with one child and feel like I am making progress, than I find myself drifting downstream with another. I need a rudder to keep me headed in the right direction when strong winds blow.

Jesus becomes our rudder as we spend time getting to know Him and listening to Him speak to us. As we know Him better, we understand that He is totally to be trusted with not only our lives but the lives of our children. If we don’t get to know Him, we will listen to the world. Advice from the world is like hidden shoals or sharp boulders beneath the surface, which rip into our lives and cause a flood to come pouring in.

When we are caught in the storms of life, it is easy to think that God has lost control and that we’re at the mercy of the winds of fate. In reality, God is sovereign. He controls the boat. As we spend time getting to know Him and experience His love, we learn to trust Him no matter how large the waves and no matter how scary the storm.

[Queen Mother]

February 27, 2008

Pretty, Pretty Princess
By Micca Campbell

“Your beauty should not come for outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.” 1 Peter 3:3-4

The other day I came across a photo of my daughter’s first school dance. She looked like a Princess. Part of her fun that evening was getting dressed up for the event. Like most girls, Peyton has loved playing dress-up since she was a little girl. I have many pictures of her dressed up like a bride, a princess, or a ballerina. Peyton loved playing dress-up so much that one year on her birthday I bought her a board game called “Pretty, Pretty Princess.”

Quickly, it became her favorite game. With each turn, the player had the opportunity to put on an earring, a necklace, or a bracelet according to which card was drawn. You won the game if you drew the Princess crown! I can still recall how cute it was watching her play with her daddy, and how fun it was to see him wearing the plastic jewelry. One time, he actually answered the front door wearing his Pretty, Pretty Princess jewels.

Looking back over the years, I’ve come to realize that Peyton is not alone. No matter how old we get as women, we still long to be as beautiful as a princess. That desire is a God-given desire. However, since we live in a fallen world, we often try to fill our God-given desires in unhealthy ways.

For example, the world tells us in order to be beautiful we must be a perfect size, have no defects, and a cover-girl face. Anybody measure up? I know I don't. Most of us probably don't but secretly we wish we did. How do I know? Just look at the millions of dollars spent every year on cosmetics, lotions, surgeries, and beauty aids. I can't say that I wouldn't like a lift and a tuck myself!

Turning on the TV or looking at what women are wearing today will give us evidence that we've allowed the world to shape our views on beauty. The world encourages us to seek a beauty that only lasts for a brief amount of time. God encourages us to cultivate a beauty that will never fade but only grow more beautiful with time. God's Word always has a way of bringing me back to truth. It removes the pressures of what the world says, and allows me to be nothing more than who God created me to be...beautiful in His sight.

Besides, if you’re a child of the King, then you’re already a princess. “You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light” (1 Peter 2:9). You and I were not only called out of our sin into the saving light of Christ, but we were made daughters of the King. As royal princesses, who cares what the world says? God’s princesses come in all shapes and sizes—and He loves them all!

[Queen Mother]

February 28, 2008

Misunderstood
By Wendy Pope

“Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets." Matthew 7:12 (NKJ)

Misunderstood: this word clearly describes how I have felt many times during my 15 years of marriage and if I am honest; my husband could make the same claim. I remember in our pre-martial counseling hearing the word communication and how important it is to a successful marriage. Keeping this in the forefront of my mind and having gone to great lengths to communicate, many times I still feel misunderstood.

My husband and I used to have "pillow talk." Well we still do, but not nearly as often. Pillow talk is honest, heart to heart talk, in the bed, in the dark. Not necessarily involving intimacy, just conversation. Somehow in the dark, you can shed light on how you are truly feeling about an issue.

Not long ago we had some pillow talk. I thought I was really making some headway in helping my man understand my needs. I shared my needs openly and honestly. He responded with a simple touch and a snuggle. At this point, I was feeling very understood. I fell asleep knowing that my thoughts were heard, appreciated and would be taken into great consideration the next time this issue came up.

A few days later, on the way to church I heard the following words coming through the speakers:

When we don’t talk, when we don’t touch, when it doesn’t feel like we’re even in love it matters to me.

When I don’t know what to say, don’t know what to do, don’t know if it really even matters to you. How can I make you see it matters to me?

As I listened to the words I thought, "Faith Hill can say it better than me." I just knew my husband was pondering Faith's words as well, and recounting our pillow talk conversation. This is when I made the mistake. I said, "Did you understand what I was saying the other night?" I won't bother to give his response. Suffice it to say, he is a man not a woman.

Instead of getting upset that he was unable to recall our entire pillow-conversation, I recited a “reader's digest version” of it and we laughed. Then as God would have it, I heard the following words from Ricky Van Shelton coming through the speakers:

I don't know why you want to start with me, I ain't done-nothing far as I can see and I'm worn out from working too hard, why don't you give me a break. I know that lately things ain't been so good, I'll make it up just like I told you I would but I'm tired and I want to sit down, to ease this old backache.

You say you're having trouble figuring me, I don't believe I'm such a mystery. Baby what you get is what you see. I am a simple man. I want a job and a piece of land, three squares in my frying pan. Don't seem so hard for me to understand, I am a simple man.

I had to laugh. Misunderstood: husbands and wives feel it. Faith says it matters to her when there is no talking or touching. Ricky Van says I know things haven't been good lately but I am working as hard as I can, I am just a simple man.

If being misunderstood is the question, what is the answer? The answer is to be Jesus to my man. I am to offer respect when I feel wronged, show grace when I don't feel like grace is deserved, and demonstrate love when it seems I have no love to give.

Jesus offers all this, and more, to me everyday. Respect, grace, and love many times aren't easy to demonstrate. However, in God's economy you give a little and get a lot, maybe not the exact return you desire at that moment, but abundant blessings from your Heavenly Bridegroom.